Kingston Public Library (Mill Pond)

The verbally abusive relationship, how to recognize it and how to respond, Patricia Evans

eng

Includes bibliographical references (p. 229-232) and index

index present

non fiction

The verbally abusive relationship

461276109

Patricia Evans

how to recognize it and how to respond

From the Publisher: In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life. In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse-and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior-from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse. Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse-and the abuser. This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time!

Foreword -- Introduction -- Part 1 -- 1: Evaluating your own experience -- 2: Two kinds of power: a broad perspective -- 3: Personal power: a look at reality II -- 4: Abuser and the abusive relationship: a look at reality I -- 5: Consequences of verbal abuse -- 6: Partner's feelings -- 7: Obstacles and indicators -- Part 2 -- 8: Characteristics and categories of verbal abuse -- 9: Anger addict -- 10: Conditioning and the partner -- 11: Recognition of verbal abuse and asking for change -- 12: Responding with impact to verbal abuse -- 13: Recovery -- 14: Looking back -- 15: Underlying dynamics: some reasons why -- 16: Stress and verbal abuse -- 17: Irrational behavior to the extreme -- 18: About therapy-and for the therapist -- 19: Children and verbal abuse -- Conclusion: Where do we go from here? -- Appendix: Frequently asked questions -- Bibliography -- Survey -- Index